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Teens and Adults: How to Talk to Your Peers About Depression When You Are Afraid of Oversharing

Joan Lipuscek

Opening up about depression is a daunting task, and it becomes even more challenging when you’re uncertain about whom to trust. For both teens and adults, the fear of being judged or misunderstood can make this process even more intimidating. However, sharing your struggles is an essential step toward healing and finding the support you need. Here are some tips to help you navigate these conversations while protecting your emotional well-being.

Reflect on Past Interactions

Before you open up, take a moment to think about your past interactions with the person. Have they shown empathy and respect for others' feelings? Reflecting on these interactions can help you decide if they might be trustworthy.

Start Small

Begin by sharing something minor and observe their reaction. For example, mention feeling a bit overwhelmed or stressed. Their response to these small disclosures can give you insight into how they might handle more serious information about your depression.

Use "I" Statements

When you do decide to talk, use "I" statements to express your feelings. For instance, say "I’ve been feeling really low lately" rather than "You don’t understand what I’m going through." This approach helps keep the conversation focused on your experiences and feelings.

Set Clear Boundaries

Clearly communicate your boundaries at the start of the conversation. Let them know that what you’re sharing is personal and that you need them to respect your privacy. For example, you could say, "I'm sharing something very personal with you, and I hope you can keep it confidential."

Educate Them About Depression

Sometimes people don't understand depression because they haven't experienced it. Providing a brief explanation can help them understand what you're going through. Explain that depression is a medical condition that affects your mood, thoughts, and behavior, and it’s not something you can just snap out of.

Share Selectively

You don't have to share everything. Choose specific aspects of your experience that you feel comfortable disclosing. If you're unsure how they will react, it's okay to withhold some details.

Observe Their Reaction

Pay attention to their reaction. Are they listening attentively? Do they respond with empathy and support? If their reaction is dismissive or judgmental, it might be a sign to end the conversation and seek support elsewhere.

Seek Support from Trusted Sources First

If you’re hesitant about trusting your peers, consider seeking support from more reliable sources first. This could be a family member, a close friend, or a mental health professional. They can provide you with the support and guidance you need while you decide who else to trust.

Prepare for Various Outcomes

Understand that not everyone will respond the way you hope. Be prepared for different reactions, including positive, negative, or indifferent responses. Remember, their reaction is not a reflection of your worth or the validity of your feelings.

Protect Your Well-being

If the conversation doesn't go well or you feel hurt by their response, prioritize your well-being. Reach out to someone who has consistently been supportive or consider talking to a therapist. It’s important to have a safety net of people who can offer genuine support.

Talking to your peers about your depression when you’re unsure of their trustworthiness can be intimidating for both teens and adults. By taking small steps, setting boundaries, and being selective about what you share, you can navigate these conversations more safely. Remember, it’s okay to protect yourself and seek support from trusted sources. Your mental health and well-being are paramount, and finding the right people to support you is a crucial step in your journey toward healing.

Parent Tips for Helping Children & Teens Create Healthy Friendships

Joan Lipuscek

Friendship is a vital part of development, providing support, companionship and a sense of belonging. However, making friends can sometimes feel daunting, especially for young people navigating the complexities of adolescence and the teenage years. These are some suggestions that parents can use when talking to their children about the best ways to make friends and build meaningful connections.

Be Yourself

Authenticity is key when it comes to making friends. Encourage your child to embrace their unique interests, quirks, and personality traits. When they stay true to themselves, they attract friends who appreciate them for who they are.

Find Common Interests

Shared interests provide a natural starting point for friendship. Encourage youth to explore their hobbies and passions, whether it's sports, art, music, or gaming. Participating in activities they enjoy increases the likelihood of meeting like-minded peers.

Be Open-Minded

Friendship can come in unexpected forms. Encourage your children to be open-minded and approachable, welcoming the opportunity to connect with people from diverse backgrounds and perspectives. Emphasize the value of learning from others and embracing new experiences.

Practice Empathy

Empathy is the foundation of meaningful connections. Encourage your child to listen actively, show genuine interest in others' experiences and offer support when needed. By understanding and empathizing with others' feelings, they deepen their friendships, foster trust and build camaraderie.

Initiate Conversations

Initiating conversations can be nerve-wracking, but it's a crucial step in making friends. Encourage your children to start small by asking open-ended questions, offering compliments, or sharing a funny story. Remind them that everyone feels a little awkward at times and the more they practice, the more comfortable they will feel over time.

Be a Good Listener

Being a good listener is just as important as being able to express oneself. Encourage your child or teen to give their full attention when others are speaking, ask follow-up questions, and validate their feelings. By showing genuine interest in others, they will strengthen their connections and build rapport.

Communication Skills 

As parents we can create opportunities to practice meaningful communication by setting aside device-free times, such as family dinners, to engage in open and honest conversations. Practicing active listening and effective communication techniques to ensures everyone in your family feels valued and builds important friendship skills.

Cooperation

Engage in collaborative activities and projects as a family to promote teamwork and cooperation. Encourage children to take turns, share responsibilities and appreciate the contributions of others, fostering a sense of unity and collaboration.

Emotion Regulation

Help children and teens learn to recognize and manage their emotions in healthy ways. Provide support and guidance during times of emotional distress, teaching coping strategies and problem-solving skills to navigate challenging situations.

Apology and Forgiveness 

Teach children the importance of taking responsibility for their actions, making sincere apologies and offering forgiveness to others. Model the behavior you wish to see by acknowledging your own mistakes and demonstrating genuine remorse and forgiveness.

Be Kind and Inclusive

Kindness goes a long way in fostering friendships. Encourage youth to be inclusive, reach out to those who may be feeling left out, and stand up against bullying and exclusion. By creating a welcoming environment, they create opportunities for meaningful connections to flourish.

Remain Patient and Persistent

Making friends takes time and effort. Encourage your kids to stay patient and persistent even if they face setbacks or rejection along the way. Remind them that building friendships is a journey and each interaction brings them one step closer to finding their community.

Friendship is a valuable asset in child development, offering support, companionship, and a sense of belonging. By being authentic, embracing common interests, practicing empathy and initiating conversation, young people can build meaningful connections that enrich their lives. Remind your children that true friendships are worth the effort.